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When chatting made sense!

AndroidPIT-WhatsApp-hero-br-1107How many of you remember the days of online chat rooms? There was a room for every topic and interest. With an internet connection, you would never be bored. Obviously that era passed – which is super sad for some of us. It was a great way to pass time while connecting with people of same interests.

Where am I going with this? Well, I finally got my first leave in so many years of non-stop working. I actually made a decision to completely disconnect from both the official work and all my other side hustle tasks. The day started off well, I got some time to really watch and enjoy a movie at home and when I was done, I found myself getting bored in the afternoon. A couple of times, I literally found myself trying to check and reply my emails.

This got me wondering, are there specific topic WhatsApp groups, whether private or public, that are your spend time on, and what are their terms and conditions? To get this started, I decided to make a post where I will list some of the groups I know or I am a member of.

Here we go;

Name Description Terms Invitation Link
PR Without Boundaries A group for PR & Communications people. A break off from the Public Relations Association of Uganda group You must be a PR Practitioner Private
Breaking Online A news focused group, sharing everything from invitation to pressers, to actual press releases. Members are mostly media personalities You must be an online editor for a news agency & Gov’t PRO Private
Mountain Slayers People that love hiking and climbing mountains. They have hikes almost every month, ranging from simple hills climbs to Mountain climbing You must take at least three hikes with the group before you are invited to the group Private
Mama Tendo Foundation (The Chased) A breakaway group from Mama Tendo Foundation. 90% Luganda.

Mbu A family group mostly for ladies, but with some few men too. Highly addictive, enjoy responsibly. Paradise for the oppressed. No pornography or abusive language allowed.

Public Click the link with WhatsApp web open
Duolingo Challenge A support group for individual that are learning languages using Dou Lingo App Public Challenge ended

What groups are you a member? You know, groups where you can join and have a sensible or pointless chat – depending on what works for you, and when you are done, you can exit or stay.

Don’t forget to share the invitation link or how one can join.

Thanks

Love & Life

Screen Shot 2018-03-15 at 4.51.41 PMMy wife and I have been going through one of those times where you annoy each other more times than usual. It had got so bad to the point where every time we tried to have a conversation, it always ended up with us getting angry at each other – most times over petty things.

A while ago, she proposed that we should talk to someone, and me with my huge ego from Bushenyi that can fill a pioneer bus alone, I obviously refused. She didn’t give up on the idea – she is an extremely stubborn woman. She went a head and scheduled a coffee with Bishop Zac. I have to say, I respect that Bishop and there is no way I was going to stand him up. So, I allowed to meet him and I have to say it was easier than I thought and obviously much more rewarding than I expected.

We had a great one hour chat with the Bishop, who listened more than he contributed. Here we were, talking to each other in a way that we had not done in a while. I was listening and she was listening. Our issues were pretty much resolved by ourselves! All the Bishop had to do was sit there, listen and allow us to express ourselves.

Anyways, this experience got me thinking about love and life. It got me reviewing the relationships and the people around me. It is very interesting to note that Romantic love can actually be more destructive than we think. You have seen all these love crimes that happen every other day? How about the greatest love story of all time; Romeo and Juliet. It was actually a more chaotic story that we realize. It was filled with death, feuds and suicide!

Studies show that love is like a drug – cocaine to be precious! Love gives us the stimulating effect to the brain, just like cocaine does. When in love, we experience intense highs when things are good and then crash down hard when things go bad. That is why, there are people who get heartbroken all the time but just keep on getting from one relationship and straight into another – they never stop. These are pretty much addicted to the love high. They tend to use love as an escape from their problems or as a distraction without even knowing it.

It is very interesting to note that back in the day, our forefathers new about these effects of love and thats why marriages were not based on love but rather on respective skills sets of the partners. How well do they compliment each other? How well will they be able to support each other to do great things? These days however, most marriages are based on love and when the high is over, most of us do not know how to deal. Hence, more divorces than back in the day.

I know people who got married or are married for love are probably rolling their eyes, and a few others thinking… Shoot! We are doomed! No, we are not! There is a backdoor to making things work. Instead of focusing on your feelings – that is the love high, focus on supporting your partner. In simple terms, be a friend. When the high goes down – which it always does, you shall still have the friendship bond to jump things up and get the high effects back on.

To happier relationships.

PS. There is no shame in talking to someone about your issues. Do not bottle things up. They will blow up and it will be too late to get help.

PPS. They say to conquer your flaws, you must first accept them.

PPPS. Yes, he asked the question.. How is your sex life?!
God! That question!!! It never stops being awkward answering that question.

The 5am Hour

5-AM-THE-HOUR-WHEN-LEGENDS-ARE-EITHER-WAKING-UP-OR5am is the hour when legends are either waking up or going to sleep

For the biggest part of this year, I have been waking up at 4:45am or 5am. Unfortunately for me, it has not been very easy at all. Some mornings I have literally got out of bed walking like a zombie with bloodshot eyes after going to bed past 2am.

See, two things have happened this year; one, I made a decision to always be the one to get my older son ready for school no matter what. I mean, it doesn’t matter if I get home at 3am in the morning on a school night, I will set 10 alarms if I have to, but I shall be the one to get my son ready for school. Two, I started mountain biking every Sunday morning, which means I can no longer stay out late on Saturday nights.

Anyways, back to the 5am hour. Not only do I get to enjoy an hour of bonding with my older son from 5am to 6am every morning, I also get to get an early start for my day. The hour from 6am to 7am has turned into my personal hour where I get to reflect about what my plans for the day, or I get in a few minutes of a workout, and all this sort of gets me in a zone that literally drives my day – its amazing.

A couple of times I have been out with one of my very good friends on a school night and told him how I have to turn in early to be able to get up at 5am without trouble and he constantly tells me, I quote
“Why do you make yourself suffer when you can afford a helper who will get up at 5am to get your son ready for school?”
My answer to him has constantly been the same, I LOVE DOING IT.

Honestly, I can’t wait for the time when my passion for the bonding time and what I do (read work) starts getting me up.
When I won’t have to set any alarms.
When the “excitement” to start my day will just spring me out of sleep.. BOOM! Just like that.

Here is to growing, to learning, to being more passionate about the things that mean a lot to us.
Here is to the 5am hour!

 

SIM Registration – Is there anything to debate about it?!

There has been a lot of noise about this issue from bodies like; ICTAU, ULS and the like.. Yes they do raise a number of legit issues but lets face it, we are simply being lazy and raising excuses like we always do. Here are some things to take note of;

  1. There was a claim by a one Andrew Karamagi, I quote “For a population of over thirty five million, with only four million two hundred thousand National IDs collected… [skip skip], how are you going to re-register twenty two million phone users in the period you have provided?” –
    1. News flash, there are ONLY twenty two million SIM cards in use in Uganda – that is according to UCC.
    2. In 4 days out of the 7 days, MTN has communicated that eight million of MTN’s eleven million customers have re-registered their SIM cards.
      – Knowing the culture of Ugandans (as much as we like to deny it) we always do things last minute, the last two days will see a number of people re-register their SIMs more than those that did on day 1 and 2. If you do not believe this, send out invitation for an event and ask them to RSVP. Only 20% will confirm and an extra 90% will show up for the event – including the 10% that just got wind of the event. What does this tell you about Ugandans?
  2. There were claims about why the School IDs, Work IDs, Voter’s Cards, Driving Permits and Birth Certificates are not allowed documents. Here are my thoughts
    1. School IDs – these can be forged for a low as 5,000 UGX in any shop on Nasser or Nkrumah road. Plus they can’t be verified with ease. Imagine if you had 1,000,000 School IDs from over 1,000 schools, what sort of resources would be spent on verifying them?
    2. Same applies to Work IDs
    3. Voter’s cards – there are a number of people of that lied about their details just to get onto the registers, plus if the last elections are anything to go by, how many people did not have their details in the register? How many people had their details wrong?!
    4. Driving permits – Actually these I would support. With Face Technology, one is required to have their finger prints on file. If you lie about your name(s) or other details, that will be the person attached to your finger prints which can not be altered or forged, hence you shall permanently become that person.
    5. Birth Certificate – these are also easily forged for cheap.
      – With almost all those document not qualifying, this why the National ID is legit;

      1. there is one database that can easily be referenced with ease
      2. The details of this information are stored by one National body – NIRA, which makes them secure and dependable.
  3. There are claims that many people do not have the National IDs.
    1. Latest statistics shared by the NITA’s ED (as shared by NIRA) there are Seventeen Million registered citizens above 16 years with National ID and ONLY One million five two hundred thousand National IDs have not been picked. Hence, 15.5 15.8 Million Ugandan’s have/had National IDs

With that cleared, next question is, do you as an individual think it is necessary to have your SIM re-registered or confirmed? If you think/know that it is necessary then stop the complaining and get off your bu** and get the process done.

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This is a process that will take you only a couple of seconds.